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If you haven’t figured it out by now I’m a 49er fan. I remember watching John Brodie, Ken Willard and Gene Washington back in the 60’s. In the 70’s I loved watching Paul Hofer, Freddie Solomon and so many others. In 1979 Bill Walsh became head coach, Steve DeBerg was the starting quarterback and we had a rookie backup quarterback… what was his name? Joe… (he he he) Joe Montana! That first year with Bill Walsh and Joe Montana the 49ers went 2-14.

What’s my point? Every great coach and every great player takes responsibility for losses. They don’t make excuses, they don’t point fingers, and they don’t blame the environment (society). They look deep inside and take personal responsibility for their actions that may have contributed to the loss. Good parents should, no, must do the same. King David did. When the prophet, Nathan, exposed David’s sin he immediately confessed his sin, and took full responsibility. Then David said to Nathan, “I have sinned against the LORD.” Nathan replied, “The LORD has taken away your sin. You are not going to die. 2 Samuel 12:13 (NIV) Take a close look at this verse; David immediately confessed his sin and God immediately forgave him!

One of the greatest lessons we can teach our children is the wonderful forgiveness of God. God is rich in mercy and His love overflows with grace. As a father I want my life to reflect that kind of mercy, love, and grace so my children and grandchildren can experience God’s forgiveness when they make bad choices and wrong decisions. I want them to be able to come to me about whatever they are going through. I want them to know they can come to God for healing and forgiveness. I love the verse Isaiah 1:18 “Come now, let us reason together,” says the LORD. “Though your sins are like scarlet, they shall be as white as snow; though they are red as crimson, they shall be like wool.” (NIV)

Joe Montana started his football career as a backup quarterback to a 2-14 losing team, but ended his career with 4 Super Bowl rings and the reputation as being one of the greatest quarterbacks ever to play the game. Your children may never have the fame and fortune the world offers, but they can be more than conquerors through Christ who loves them. THAT’S MORE IMPORTANT THAN ANY SUPER BOWL RING! Those who stay faithful to Christ don’t get a ring, they get crown. I have fought the good fight, I have finished the race, and I have remained faithful. And now the prize awaits me—the crown of righteousness, which the Lord, the righteous Judge, will give me on the day of his return. And the prize is not just for me but for all who eagerly look forward to his appearing. 2 Timothy 4:7-8 (NLT)


It was January 10, 1982. I remember it like it was yesterday. I was scheduled to be at a special music rehearsal at Lindsay First Baptist Church (we lived in Lindsay at the time) but the NFC championship game wasn’t over. There was 58 seconds left in the game, the 49ers had the ball on the 6-yard line when Joe Montana threw that famous pass to Dwight Clark known as “The Catch.” I celebrated and celebrated! In fact I’m still celebrating!!

What does that have to do with coaching strategies for your family? It’s the importance of the celebration. Every family needs to celebrate the victories of life. Romans 12:15 When others are happy, be happy with them. If they are sad, share their sorrow. (NLT) Every child needs the joy that celebrations bring when they have had successes in life.

Celebrate when your children make progress at school. Celebrate with your wife when a credit card gets paid off (then burn the card!). Celebrate the success stories at work with your family. Celebrate the miracles of God in your home and at your church.

Don’t get me wrong, make sure it really is something deserving of celebration. But if we are honest with ourselves we seem to spend a lot more time with the things that go wrong than the things that go right. It’s time to turn it around! Celebrate the little victories, the little gains. What is the West Coast offense? It’s a ball control offensive system that uses the timed, short passing game. Just remember even a short completion can turn into a 90 yard touchdown!

In Matthew chapter 25 Jesus told the parable of the three servants that illustrates my heart concerning times of celebration, Matthew 25:21 (NLT) “The master was full of praise. ‘Well done, my good and faithful servant. You have been faithful in handling this small amount, so now I will give you many more responsibilities. Let’s celebrate together!’ Let me paraphrase; “The parents were full of praise. “Well done my good and faithful son/daughter. You have been faithful in handling the things I ask you to do (homework, chores, etc.) Now that you are growing you are ready for more responsibilities. Let’s celebrate together!”

It just may be time for a party, invite your family!


In 2011 a man that was inducted into the Pro Football Hall of fame that never played or coached in the NFL. But he had such a profound impact on the game that he dramatically changed the sport into what we know and enjoy year after year. He didn’t use a football or a clipboard. He used a camera. His name is Ed Sabol, founder of NFL Films. NFL Films produces everything from commercials to highlight films for coaches.

Team films help coaches prepare their players during pre-season and are an invaluable tool week after week as the season progresses. What’s my point? Well two points come to mind: 1) training and teaching your family team is an ongoing process. My daughters are grown and have families of their own, but I will always be their father and I will always teach, train, and invest in their lives and families. 2) We have a training tool that is far greater than NFL Films; we have the Bible as our training manual, playbook, and rulebook for life.

Dad, as head coach you are responsible for teaching and training your team. Get personally involved in the everyday teaching and training of your children. Don’t leave all the training to your assistant coach! If you don’t know where to start, start with the good things you learned from your own parents. Psalms 78:2-4 (GW) …I will explain… things that we have heard and known about, things that our parents have told us. We will not hide them from our children. We will tell the next generation about the LORD’S power and great deeds and the miraculous things he has done. Also, teach what you have learned from your spiritual father; your pastor, a mentor, teacher, etc. (See 1 Corinthians 4:15-17)

Remember, teaching is not just fixing what is wrong; it’s building on what is right. Coach Bill Walsh put it this way, “Nothing is more effective than sincere, accurate praise, and nothing is more lame than a cookie-cutter compliment.” When your children get it right praise them, build them up, and instill in them a winner’s attitude. I purposely used the term “winner’s attitude” instead of a “winning attitude” because with life comes loss, but a loss cannot stop a winner from facing the next challenge of life with hope and faith. What does a winner’s attitude look like? It looks like this; Philippians 4:12-13 (TLB) I know how to live on almost nothing or with everything. I have learned the secret of contentment in every situation, whether it be a full stomach or hunger, plenty or want; for I can do everything God asks me to with the help of Christ who gives me the strength and power.

You are a winner if you are in Christ!


Coaching Strategies for Your Family Part 2

Posted: September 21, 2012 in Family

When Bill Walsh took over a team with a 2-14 record he knew the key to transforming the losing mentality of the 49ers was to implement a totally different culture; one that was top-notch instead of toxic. He created a totally different way of thinking and acting that was based on high standards, hard work, and a commitment to being first-class in everything they did. I can’t think of any place more important to change the culture from discouragement to victory than in our own families.

Head Coach, (that’s you Dad) in order to change the culture of your home you need to value and invest in your assistant coach. My wife, Michelle, has been a great assistant coach and I value her more than words could express. I also have taken time to invest in her spiritual and emotional growth, giving her my attention, care and love. You will never change the atmosphere of your home if the coaches are not in unity.

Unity is crucial in every family so make sure you discuss your game plan with your assistant coach. Proverbs 15:22 Without good advice everything goes wrong— it takes careful planning for things to go right. (CEV) Your wife is your assistant—keep her informed. Honor her! Acknowledge Her! BUT REMEMBER, SHE’S NOT THE HEAD COACH, YOU ARE DAD! As husbands, we are vital in creating a winning attitude in our wives. Give her the support she needs to be a successful wife and mother. She will become the woman God intended her to be when she is connected to God’s love and knows she is loved by her man! Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her… Ephesians 5:25

Make sure the game plan for your family follows the rules. Get your game plan from the Bible. I had wonderful parents and I had a great childhood, but when it came to raising my two girls, I put my parents game plan aside and went to the Bible to develop a winning strategy for my family. Some well meaning people criticized my plan but that didn’t stop me. I knew this was God’s will for us. Did it work? My daughters love me, my wife is crazy about me, and I have five wonderful grandchildren that adore their Papa! (YES! THAT’S WHAT I’M TALKIN’ ABOUT!)

Bill Walsh had a great staff of assistant coaches that went on to be successful head coaches, George Seifert, Mike Holmgren, Mike Shanahan, Ray Rhodes, and Dennis Green, Sam Wyche and others. As you develop a winning culture you will develop a winning team that will go on to have winning families of their own.

More to come, PEACE

Coaching Strategies for Your Family

Posted: September 14, 2012 in Family

I love NFL football. I love the action, the high quality play, and I love the drama (when my team wins of course). But what really intrigues me is the art of coaching. My favorite coach is the late Bill Walsh. He took the struggling 49ers and turned them into a dynasty. By the way, this IS NOT about football, it’s about family.

Dads, we are the head coaches for our families and we need a winning strategy in place if we want a successful season. Here’s where our stagey begins; Ephesians 6:4 Fathers, do not make your children angry, but raise them with the training and teaching of the Lord. (NCV)

In order for me to properly coach my team (my wife is the assistant coach, my children and grandchildren are the team) I have to have a godly game plan. We need a well thought through plan for our families! Proverbs 22:6 Train up a child in the way he should go [and in keeping with his individual gift or bent], and when he is old he will not depart from it. (AMP) That game plan includes letting your child play their best position! Let your child learn who they are in Christ and let them discover that they are wonderfully made by God. Not every boy is going to play in the NFL and not every girl will be a cheerleader. But every child is wonderfully made (Ps. 139:14).

Training begins before the season starts. Could you imagine what would happen if a team decided to skip preseason and wait for the week of the first game to start practicing? Not a good idea. Men, don’t wait for the first signs of trouble to get involved with your children. Get involved with them NOW! Talk to them about their day, play with them, and share the Word of God with them. How about this… sit down with them and help them with their homework! Dads, if you have a daughter, take her out on a date. If you have a son, treat his mom with love and honor. But, most of all, stay committed to your team, which is your family, until the last game of the season. For me, that’s when the Owner, God Almighty, calls me home.

More to come, PEACE